Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Relating to an Ephesians 4 Team


Steve and Debra Sudworth, along with their 2 girls, Rebecca and Hannah, arrived in Chicago in May 2004 in obedience to God’s call to church plant. They have been leading Church in the City (www.churchinthecity.us) since then. Their son - Cade - was born 2 years into the plant. 

How Leaders & Churches Relate to an Eph-4 Team!


Before getting started I need to assume that we (elders, deacons & leaders, at least, but hopefully saints within our churches too) have settled (at least to some degree) the WHY of Eph-4 ministry. Perhaps it's presumptuous to assume this but in this article I want to focus on HOW to relate to Eph-4 ministry, not WHY. Let's agree at least that Eph-4 ministry into local churches is not the latest church growth strategy but THE biblical wineskin for local churches to come into maturity in the fullness of Christ. Eph 4:7-16 is all about that...it's from Jesus, for Jesus, about Jesus, pointing to Jesus. Paul emphasizes this in his apostolic exhortation to the church in Corinth, hoping their devotion to Christ remains sincere, pure and wholehearted (2 Cor 11:3).

I have the privilege of providing leadership to the elders and deacons who lead Church in the City in downtown Chicago. I would never want them to view our church's current partnership with an Eph-4 team as "Steve's thing". No! If something were to happen to me to prevent me from leading the church or if and when our leaders plant churches I would want them to partner with Eph-4 ministry because, simply put, it's biblical. But more than that, the text in Eph 4 says nothing about training leaders but rather training  and equipping the SAINTS for ministry until ALL come to maturity in Christ.

So, how should our leadership teams and churches relate to an Eph-4 team?

1. Welcome them warmly!
Acts 21:17 and Acts 28:14b-15
How? Intentionally & thoughtfully teach your people OFTEN & SPECIFICALLY about translocal/Eph-4 ministry.

   OFTEN?
If translocal/Eph-4 ministry relating to and working with local churches is biblical (which it is), then it should be part of our church's DNA and foundation! And if part of our DNA, then we should be speaking and teaching on it often. Quite simply, it just takes people time to understand so we need to be incorporating this into our leaders meetings & training, Sunday gatherings, "membership" classes, connect groups, prayer meetings, blogs, etc.

   SPECIFICALLY?
But our teaching and training needs to be specific about which team your local church relates to otherwise Eph-4 ministry can become to many a nebulous concept. The church I am a part of relates to NCMI. These are the kinds of questions we regularly ask and answer...

   Who is NCMI? A translocal team of Eph-4 gifts with an apostolic/prophetic heart (going and breaking into new regions; seeing, preparing and becoming the future in God) helping local churches achieve their God given vision. Key texts are Acts 14, Acts 19 and Eph 4.
   Who is visiting from the team? This requires some level of relationship so that I can stand before the church with conviction and say "You can trust this couple."
   What to expect and why is it important to prioritize the time?
   How should we receive them? Scripture is clear that when we receive a prophet we receive a prophets reward! We need to be clear to our churches how to receive the Eph-4 gift in order to receive greatest benefit.
   (And with respect to nationwide EQUIP's or training times) Why is it important to take a weeks vacation and spend money to travel and attend an EQUIP?

2. Receive them as friends!
Acts 20:36-38

   Create some space for relational times over the weekend with your leadership teams and potential leaders.
   Whilst it is a privilege relating to a diverse team with diverse gifts, there is value in having 1 or 2 team couples through your church consistently.

3. But recognize and receive their authority!
Philemon 8-9, "Therefore, although in Christ I could be bold and order (command) you to do what you ought to do, yet I prefer to appeal to you on the basis of love."

   There is an authority that an Eph-4 gift carries but it's not an hierarchical authority but an authority associated with their gifting.
   Because of this recognized authority it is helpful to reference the Eph-4 team on key decisions involving DISCIPLE, DOCTRINE, DIRECTION (asking for perspective, though, not permission).

4. Listen carefully to what they say!
In Acts 2:14 Peter starts his incredible sermon at Pentecost with) Listen carefully to what I say…” How do we ensure this? Create space BEFORE (to adequately prepare the saints) and AFTER (to respond effectively to Eph-4 ministry). We can easily dilute what God wants to say and do in these times by planning to many Eph-4 events or visits back-to-back or cluttering our church planners with other events around Eph-4 ministry times that forces people to choose. In this case I believe less is sometimes more!

   Factor in the "rocks" of (for e.g.) 3-4 Eph-4 weekends in your church, a regional GTT and national EQUIP time into your planner and let the church know as soon as possible so they can plan accordingly.
   Be STRATEGIC in who you invite in response to what God is saying and doing within your local church. If you're not sure who to invite in response to a specific season God has your church in then ask one of the team guys that you know well to recommend someone you might not know.
   Be specific in communicating EXPECTATIONS for the weekend so they have at least some idea of what God is already doing within the local church and what have you been teaching on.

5. Have great expectancy for their ministry amongst you!
Acts 11:25 + 27 = Acts 13:1
The apostles and prophets we read about in Antioch did not happen perchance but because apostles and prophets had already been ministering into that local church for some time. Be expectant for God to do much and release gifts within your local church.

6. Devote yourself to their teaching!
After the Eph-4 ministry weekend or GTT or EQUIP is perhaps more strategic and important than before. Most of us agree that "more is caught than taught" so for a saint to see Eph-4 ministry in action rather than just to hear teaching on it is infinitely more effective and valuable.

   Reinforce the biblical precedent, value and importance of Eph-4 ministry following a ministry weekend.
   So much is communicated by what we do or don't say after an Eph-4 ministry visit. We can add infinite value to the ministry by taking time to go over key points, truths or application for your local church, perhaps interrupting your preaching series for a week or two to do this. We perhaps communicate loudest when we don't say anything to our church about an Eph-4 ministry visit.
   Encourage everyone to ask themselves 2 questions following Eph-4 ministry; (1) What did God say? (2) What is my response? Do this as a leadership team too.

Trust you find this helpful as we go into the new year.  May 2012 be an incredible year  of serving our King and extending His Kingdom for all of us!

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

THE JOYS OF HOSTING IN EXCELLENCE



Mark and Bridgett do an outstanding job of leading Heights City Church in Pickering, Canada. As one who has benefitted form their exceptional hospitality on more than one occasion I can say, they are truly qualified to write on this subject ... I  love the "tongue in cheek humor" ... Enjoy! 

THE JOYS OF HOSTING IN EXCELLENCE
The Word encourages us to be "inventive, generous, dignified, and sensitive in our hospitality....", so here's a collage of thoughts and ideas we can draw from, as we swing wide the doors of our homes to bless those who tarry.....
Just mulling over the scriptures in Acts 16:15, and vs's 32-34, regarding Lydia, a wealthy business woman, and the simple jailer -  both from totally different walks of life.  They had two things in common;  they immediately opened their hearts to the Gospel, and their homes to people.   Too wonderful is this opportunity our Lord gives us to bless our co-workers in this marvelous Gospel, all for the King and His Kingdom!
Hospitality is an extension of the heart!!! 
This "journey" will take us from the hustle and bustle of the Airport "pick-up" to the "dropping off" of our guests as they leave us.
I've listed a few things I've learned over the years of hosting, and of being hosted.....
1.   Prepare a (small) cooler-box containing iced water bottles and fruit juices for the ride from the airport to your home.   Depending on how long their flight has been, thirst may be an issue.   A few health-bars may also delight!
2.   Hot tip!   Email / phone / skype your guests before their visit, to ascertain the following:- 
a)   What they enjoy to drink first thing in the morning?
b)   Any allergies?  (Cats / dogs can be an issue besides food)
c)   Food likes / dislikes?
d)   Drink likes / dislikes?
d)   Shampoo preferences / deodorant preferences?  (Helps with their traveling requirements, and negates suitcase weight / over-zealous airport security personnel...)

3.   A Coffee-maker / kettle in the room!  Coffee sachet's, Tea sachet's, and Hot Chocolate sachets.    Sugar / Sweetener / Creamer.   Set a tray with cups, saucers,  and spoons for the guests to make their own hot beverages.
4.   Have a Hair-dryer (and a flat-iron if you have one for the ladies) in their room.
5.   A mirror (especially for the ladies) is a big plus!  
6.   Provide a basket of Toiletries, eg. Cotton swabs, Q-tips, Nail Polish Remover,  Eye-makeup Remover, Face-wipes, Toothpaste, Mouthwash, (all available at Shoppers Drug Mart / Walgreen’s / Clicks in 'travel sizes').   Just helpful items for your guests.
7.   Always advisable to have an adaptor handy in your guest room to accommodate laptops / cell phones etc.
8.   CLEAN LINEN and TOWELS!!!  Can't stress this enough!  
9.   Have the following in place in their room before their arrival:-
       a)  An assortment of fruit (eg. bananas, clementine’s, apples)
       b)  An assortment of health bars, crisps, chocolate bars, biscuits.
       c)  An assortment of drinks eg.  Milk, water, fruit juices, their "pop" 
             preferences.   (Remember.... you've assembled this info prior to
             their arrival?!)
       d)  Notebooks, pens, magazines..... 
        e)  Provide enough space for your guests to hang their clothes, and enough coat              hangers - it's no fun living out of your suitcase!
        f)  As your guests have been traveling prior to your visit, offer to either
              iron their clothes, or supply an iron and board for their use.
         g)  If you are able to,  "His" and "Hers" toweling bath robes are a
                blessing!

NB   If you are blessed with a "bar 'fridge" either in, or close to your guest room, the drinks can obviously be stored in it, otherwise, a cooler-box is great.
Naturally, whilst you've provided for their personal stock, saying "mi refrigerator is su refrigerator" makes for family inclusion!
You may be thinking "for goodness sake", at this stage, but believe me, a little forethought and early organizing goes a long way to ensuring both your guest's comfort and relieving you of any unnecessary stress!
The Guest room / suite should always be a "home away from home" in cleanliness, comfort, and in provision.   Imagine yourself in "new" surroundings.... what would bring you pleasure?   What thoughtfulness would bring you delight in your surrounds?   Our guests should never feel 'isolated', and of course your entire home should be accessible and welcoming, but we should always take their 'privacy' into consideration, and do whatever we can to enhance and nurture their well-being above all.  What a privilege it is to lovingly welcome them into your clean, secure home environment!
(Would this be a good time to suggest that you entice your energetic, enthusiastic, soccer-crazy offspring not to display their sporting prowess within a 5-metre radius of your exhausted guests?)
Helpful Hints:
Prepare meals as far as possible, in advance.
Ask what they would like for breakfast, set a time, and have it all ready for them as they surface from their room.
Comfort is key, so ensure that there is a place in your home where they can just relax, put their feet up, and "chill"...... as hosts, be sensitive to whether or not "entertainment" is welcomed.   Sight-seeing may or may not be your guest's top priority!  (They've travelled, and ministered for 2 full weeks, and we want to drag them off to Niagara Falls for the 3rd time in their lives... just so we can show off our neck of the woods....ASK, before you don your khaki safari outfits!!!)
Gifts and Comforts:
A thoughtful "gift" on the bed is always appreciated.  For example - a warm scarf (if they are arriving in your winter.)   Be creative, with regards to your "season".
If you are hosting a husband... what a precious gesture to send him home with something that's fun and easy to pack for his wife and family!
A small box of chocolates on the pillow for your guest on arrival is good. (Both sides, if a couple.)
I like to stock up, especially when I see the "toiletries" on special, so that when we are preparing to host, expenses are stewarded well.  
I also keep a "Gift Cupboard", and throughout the year, stock up with things that catch my eye, so I'm not caught short when I need a relevant gift.
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Something for those "Being Hosted".....
How welcomed you should feel!   Completely "at home!"
Well... there are a couple of keys to being hosted that you may like to take note of.... a few "f’rinstances" that will keep that smile on your hosts' faces....

1.   Be honest.   If the bed sucks, and your hosts ask you... be gentle, but sensitive and truthful!   They need your kind, wise input, not your criticism!
2.   If you need anything (maybe not a flat screen tv...) but hey....ASK, obviously without being over-demanding.  Don't leave paradise "lost"....
3.   Take (or at least offer to take) your linen off your beds the day you leave.  Towels too.    Just a helpful gesture to the hostess.
4.   Bring your garbage to the appropriate disposal area.
5.   A personal note of thanks left on the bedside table is a delight for your hostess to find after your departure!
6.   Offer to help, especially after the meals....help is always appreciated, but if your hostess navigates you graciously out of the kitchen....go and put your feet up and ENJOY!!!   Sometimes it's easier for her to have you languishing than to have you "helping"!
Please be assured that the above are all "suggestions"!  
Hosting should be a WONDERFUL experience for ALL - both for the hosts and for the hosted!!!  I urge you to consider, if you haven't done so before, to take the plunge, put your name on your respective church's Hospitality List, and ENJOY!!!  As believers, we should relish getting into one another's homes to fellowship and to love on one another....thank You Jesus for this truly beautiful way in which to bless, giving You the glory as we do!
Much love and joy in serving Jesus together!
Bridget Ellwood
Heights City Church
Pickering
Canada